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caption@P@ 1 110DOLLY.COM.AU DOLLYMAG HOW TO FRIEND CLEANSE Friendships are hard work, but they’re not meant to make you feel lousy. Is it possible to put pals on the back-burner without hurting their feelings? the n i ce way If you feel like your mates are being fake, it might be time to do a cull. do0814-LIFE-friendcleanseP110 - 110 2014-06-24T16:34:26+10:00

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caption@P@ 1 111 WORDS DANIELLE PINKUS. PHOTOGRAPHY GETTY IMAGES. *NAMES CHANGED FOR PRIVACY.A fter two weekends of hanging out at Coachella, Selena Gomez erased photos of her party pals Kylie and Kendall Jenner from her Insta account. It seemed to happen out of nowhere, but during the festival, the singer allegedly discovered racy texts from Kylie to her ex, The Biebs. Selena’s cull seems like a totally justified act but for the rest of us, trying to work out a good time to make a break from someone is often murkier territory. Like Selena, Sammy*,16, knows what it’s like to go through a tough time with her friends. “My old best friend and I had been inseparable since kindy but once we got to Year 8, I started to feel like there was weird tension between us,” she says. “When we were in a group, she’d put me down a lot, like she was singling me out on purpose just to make herself look funny and cool – especially around guys.” Sammy began to feel nervous opening her mouth around her friend and soon began to dread going out in a group with her. “Eventually I just had enough so I started to distance myself from her by making other plans on the weekends and filling my time with things I found interesting,” explains Sammy. “I was surprised that I didn’t really miss her all that much, as I was busy doing other things. ”A couple of months later, Sammy felt normal not seeing her friend around the clock anymore. “Now we have a bit of breathing room, we’ve started getting along again,” she tells DOLLY. TIME TO CULL? If, like Sammy, you’ve started to question whether your friends are right for you, psychologist Gemma Cribb says there are some simple tell-tale signs that’ll help you decide whether or not it’s time to make a break. These might include: You don’t look forward to hanging out or doing stuff together. You worry about saying the wrong thing or looking the wrong way. You’ve heard your pals say bad things about others and you’re nervous they’ll do it to you, t